All in Healing Ancestral Money Trauma
The fear of making mistakes can affect far more than our confidence, it can shape our relationship with money. When childhood experiences teach us that mistakes are dangerous, we may develop perfectionism, fear of failure, or a vow of invisibility that prevents us from taking financial risks…
The child who learned to hide may eventually become an adult who doesn't ask for the promotion. Who doesn't speak in the meeting. Who doesn't tell people about their accomplishments. Who doesn't negotiate their salary. Who doesn't take credit for their ideas.
You can look at your bank account and see that you are okay. You can be earning more than you have ever earned. You can have assets, investments, businesses or multiple sources of income.
And still, somewhere inside you, there is a voice saying:
What if it all runs out?
For some of us, the fear of being seen has deep roots because we watched our parents and other family members experience criticism, jealousy or rejection when they became visible. It can cost business opportunities and money.
Familiar situations give us information to work with. We've been there before. We know what to expect. We know how to respond. Even if the familiar situation is uncomfortable it can still feel more predictable than stepping into something we've never experienced before.
It isn't that you don't want success. It's that being seen doesn't feel safe. In my work, I call this the vow of invisibility. It's an unconscious promise many of us make in childhood to stay small because somewhere along the way we learned that visibility came with a cost.
