All in Healing Ancestral Money Trauma
I’ve seen people talk about how anger is not the answer and how Black people should respond with love to every act of hatred.
The issue with saying anger is wrong and love is the answer is that it assumes that humans are one dimensional - that a human being cannot feel deep anger and love at the same time.
One of the things I do in my work is help people feel safe in their bodies. I look at how trauma affects our sense of safety, how that affects our nervous systems and in turn affects our financial behavior and holds us back from expanding.
I grew up in a family where I saw my mom be told that she thought she was better than everyone for having money.
I saw my mom literally meltdown, sabotage and give all her money to my uncle because she wanted him to like her and for him to take care of us.
Every family has a money norm - a money story that has become acceptable to everyone in the family and is now keeping them financially stuck. The family members that deviate from this norm are often othered or out right rejected.
Trauma lives in the body and impacts the nervous system and changes the neural synapses of the brain, which can be seen on brain scans. This means that the way we think and process actually changes due to trauma, especially prolonged trauma or childhood trauma.
