All tagged vow of invisibility
The child who learned to hide may eventually become an adult who doesn't ask for the promotion. Who doesn't speak in the meeting. Who doesn't tell people about their accomplishments. Who doesn't negotiate their salary. Who doesn't take credit for their ideas.
For some of us, the fear of being seen has deep roots because we watched our parents and other family members experience criticism, jealousy or rejection when they became visible. It can cost business opportunities and money.
It isn't that you don't want success. It's that being seen doesn't feel safe. In my work, I call this the vow of invisibility. It's an unconscious promise many of us make in childhood to stay small because somewhere along the way we learned that visibility came with a cost.
She emphasizes the importance of location, interior design, and creating memorable experiences for guests. Vangile also highlights the critical role of having a supportive team, including an assistant and an excellent cleaner who went above and beyond in managing the rental.
In the podcast Vangile shares examples from her own family, like nurses and teachers who work tirelessly without charging appropriately for their services, highlighting the connection between this vow of service and the struggle to set boundaries and charge fairly for one's work.
