How to Start Healing Our Ancestral Financial Baggage & Scars

How to Start Healing Our Ancestral Financial Baggage & Scars

As I’ve been doing a lot of inner child meditations lately and I had this epiphany this morning that so many of my emotions that I thought come from adulthood and events that are happening in this moment, don't come from there.

I've just conditioned myself to react and feel in a particular way from childhood, and most of the events in my adulthood just trigger those emotions and I’m reacting from that space of hurt.

10 Relaxation Techniques To Calm Your Mind


Learning how to relax can reduce stress symptoms significantly and can help you calm your mind so you can keep focused on your vision.

I've compiled a list of 10 relaxation techniques to help you:


1. Meditate


Meditation is the one thing I do every day to remain optimistic about my finances and keep going with Wealthy Money.

Research has shown that meditation can help with physical and emotional illnesses such as: cancer, heart disease, high blood pressure, binge eating etc.

Abraham Hicks says that it is easier for us to have no thought than to have a positive thought, because we have an opinion or trigger about everything.

Meditation helps us release resistance and this is what helps us raise our vibration because when we think about nothing we also stop thinking our negative thoughts.


2. Schedule time to play


All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. What can be a better relaxation technique than having fun?

Research shows that play is an important part of childhood development and if we continue to play in our adulthood we can become smarter.

Stuart Brown, as he explains in his video below, found that most serial killers were deprived of play in their childhood and that we possess an innate need to play throughout our lives.



3. Seek out positive people


A Dutch study on elderly men and women found that positive people live longer and are less stressed.

Napolean Hill in “Think and grow rich” explains that energy spreads from one person to another, and that if you want to be rich you should associate with rich people. Negative people bring you down and lower your vibration.

Birds of a feather flock together; surrounding yourself with optimists can teach you how to be an optimist.


4. Disconnect for a while


We spend a lot of time looking after others and not listening to our own needs and honouring our own desires.

Taking time out to be alone and bond with you is healthy. Disconnect can be something as simple as taking a walk or going to a movie alone.


5. Exercise


Exercising is a great way to circulate energy in your body and to release resistance by releasing stuck energy in your body.

Yoga and jogging reduce stress and release endorphins which make you happy.


6. Day dream yourself to calmness


Einstein once said, “Imagination is everything. It’s the preview of life's coming attractions.”

You may be stuck at your desk at work but there is no one stopping you from closing your eyes and emptying your mind for 10 minutes and seeing yourself relaxed on a beach somewhere.

Daydreaming is important because it gets you to use your imagination and tap into your creativity and it works in the same way as visualization does.


7. Write a love letter to yourself


I know this sounds crazy but how often do you tell yourself that you love yourself?

Knowing how to love yourself is the fastest way to breaking through a lot of relationship issues as well as issues about setting boundaries.


8. Declutter: emotionally, physically and mentally


Let go of emotional baggage and learn how to forgive.

One of the first steps we can take when letting go of baggage is by forgiving ourselves and others.


9. Be one with nature, sunlight, source energy and/or God


Whilst prayer may not always be considered a relaxation technique, prayer or your equivalent of prayer can be a powerful way to reduce stress and calm yourself down.

When we pray we usually ask for something and in our asking we activate the powers of the universe to help us overcome challenges, which can decrease stress.


10.  Get energy work done


We carry stress in our bodies. The Institute of Research at the University of Miami reports that massage reduces stress hormones and decreases symptoms of depression at all stages of life.

Getting a massage, reflexology or reiki is relaxation and can also unblock chakras and get energy flowing in your body which will raise vibration and make you more positive.


How do you calm your mind?

Let me know in the comments section below.

How to Relieve Financial Stress Using Alternative Therapies

I’ve been using alternative therapies to reduce financial stress for a very long time now.

I get acupuncture every week, go to yoga, get reflexology and massages twice a month and I can truly say the difference is obvious to everyone around me.

People associate alternative therapies with hippies, tree huggers, new-age thinkers; others even claim that alternative healing goes against science and western medicine.

My only rule is: if it works for me, then I’m in favour of it.

Alternative therapies focus on the relationship between mind, body and spirit and encompass everything from yoga to herbs.

Here are some awesome alternative therapies I recommend:


1. Meditation


Many people have a vision of meditation as something that monks or the truly enlightened do.

But meditation isn't that hectic – it’s about focusing on your breathing and observing your thoughts and your breath.

It was started in India as a tool to help people become enlightened but it can also help you clear your mind and relax your body, which helps you reduce stress.


2. Balance your energy with ACUPUNCTURE


I’m a huge fan of acupuncture, because it requires no pills and can be done on a regular basis and I have found that it makes me happy.

According to Chinese Medicine negative emotions can impact the flow of energy in our bodies.

Stress and anxiety can stop the flow of energy in various parts of the body and when this energy stops, we experience tension and pain in the body.

Acupuncture unblocks this stuck energy and allows energy to start flowing again.

Research has found that acupuncture releases endorphins (hormones for happiness) and increases blood circulation, which reduces cortisol (stress hormones).


3. Understand the cause of your stress by using EFT Tapping


EFT tapping has been around since the 1980s and is used to clear limiting beliefs and emotions that cause us to remain stuck.

But beyond that EFT can help you understand the cause of your stress and can help you clear this cause.

Studies have shown that EFT can reduce anxiety, depression and even Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).


4. Learn to breathe


Yeah, I know. You already know how to breathe or else you’d be dead.

But here’s something I didn’t know until I started meditating and focusing on my body: when you’re stressed or experiencing a negative emotion your breathing pattern changes.

When you’re stressed, you take shallower breaths and you breathe faster. You don’t use your diaphragm to take in breath.

Shallow breathing releases less stress toxins from your body.

One of the best ways to relieve stress is to breathe in the positive and breathe out the negative.

Breathing is something we have to do to live but specific breathing exercises such as pranayama, yoga and tai chi can help calm us down and give us insight on the way our minds work.

If you've a bad day and feel tension, the simplest thing is to take deep breaths in and out to calm your mind. 

Once your mind is calm take stock of the situation - accept the positive experiences and don’t let the negative ones go.

Take note of what you did wrong and resolve to be better the next time around but don’t hold onto the story.


What alternative therapies have you tried for stress relieve?

What was the result?

Let me know in the comments section below.

Why Positive Affirmations Don’t Always Work

I love positive affirmations but I’ve come to see them as a reinforcement of positive thoughts and not as a tool to erase stressful thoughts.


What Are Positive Affirmations?


Positive affirmations are positive statements that you repeat to yourself over and over to change your blue print by changing the way you think so you can change your behavioural pattern.

These statements are written down or said out loud as though they’re happening in the present moment.


How Positive Affirmations Work


The blue print of our behaviour is stored in the subconscious mind, which records and stores all events and experiences we’ve had since childhood.

Every time we experience an event the subconscious mind sifts through our past experiences and sees how we’ve behaved in the past and, to save time, tells the conscious mind to behave the same way whenever we’re faced with the same situation again.

Positive affirmations reprogram the subconscious mind to sift through information in a different manner, in order to get different results.

It’s almost like reprogramming a computer (that’s what the mind is) to play different games or run different software.

Affirmations are always recited or written as though they are happening in the present moment because the subconscious mind has no concept of time.

If you say you’ll be something or somewhere, the mind will constantly delay the event to some future date that never arrives.

The best way to do affirmations is in front of a mirror or by writing them down every day.

For example: if you have self-esteem issues you can create an affirmation to help you become more confident by telling yourself:


In time you’ll notice that you actually do become more confident every day because the subconscious mind will start to sift through information differently so that you become aware of your virtues.


Why Affirmations Don’t Always Work


1. You have to say them everyday


They take a long time to work - you need to say them with emotion and you have to believe that the things you’re affirming are true, which is difficult to master if you have deep depths of despair of depression. They don’t change negative thoughts

If you really want to change negative thoughts and beliefs you have to confront them by questioning their validity or through meditation.

Affirmations don’t erase the old thoughts or question their validity, they’re just positive thoughts you add to the mix, so you always have to affirm the new thoughts and fight the old ones.

It’s like writing a new code without erasing the old code, which makes for an interesting (ish) software


2. You can’t affirm everything


We think so many thoughts, positive and negative, in a day; you can’t affirm all of them every day for a month.

When you’re going through hell, how do you know which thought is the one that’s causing you the most stress?

This was something I struggled with for years, because I was dealing with family issues, money issues, relationship issues and self-esteem issues at the same time, I had like 20 affirmations at a time, so doing affirmations actually took time and work on my part.

If you do affirmations, I suggest 7 affirmations for 30 days morning and evening.

I like 7 because it signifies completion (again this is all personal preference. Do what feels right for you).



Have you used affirmations before?

Have they worked for you?

Let me know in the comments section below...