One of the major emotions I struggle with is guilt, especially around money.
I keep thinking I'm okay and I've it sorted but wow, am I wrong!
I'm seeing it pop up again now - around money, happiness and life choices.
In an ideal world, money shouldn't be able to buy us good health. We would all have access to health care and healthy food at affordable rates or even free of charge.
But we don't live in an ideal world…
Why do we find it so difficult to move ourselves beyond survival mode and into full on financial abundance?
Why do we constantly find ourselves on the financial edge?
Sometimes it seems like no matter what we do - we always find ourselves back in debt or with a zero bank balance or just dealing with the same old financial drama as last year or 10 years before.
Our minds are constantly growing, constantly evolving, and there's enough proof to believe in this theory.
Not just regarding physical size, even the basic functionality of the mind changes and evolves as we grow older.
So how can we change our mindset?
People usually use their lack of money as the primary excuse for not investing.
But when will money ever be enough? When you reach 45? 50? 60 or too old to count?
Investing while you’re broke is possible; you just need to make that mindset shift.
When I started tantra yoga, I'd only done vinyasa yoga and ashtanga yoga and was focused on being in the poses and looking awesome as I do them.
I'd force myself into poses and now I have to challenge myself to relax in a pose and feel into my body, which changed my life.
But not before I almost lost my mind crying everyday when I was getting my yoga teaching certificate in Goa, India and then had all sorts of ancestral and deep childhood memories surface.
Over the last few weeks I've been sharing how money asked to be a husband during one of the meditations. Since then I have noticed a change in how I relate to money. And it's a great change.
I noticed that there's a trust and gratitude within me when it comes to money. It's something that's definitely new and it wasn't always there until I started doing the spirit of money meditations and inner child meditations to let go of the past.
I used to look at my bills or expenses and obsess about cutting them and sometimes feel upset that unexpected bills would appear.
I remember arriving in Dubai at the beginning of last month and just being shocked at the pricing of everything.
I struggle with what I call survivor's guilt.
When things are going well in my life, I downplay the awesomeness of it all and pretend it’s humility.
I sometimes lie about how my business is doing so I can make others around me feel less uncomfortable or maybe it's to make myself feel more accepted.
The guilt that I keep manifesting awesomeness without going through hell because I still have this deep belief that life should be hard.
The guilt that I'm living the life that my parents and ancestors could only dream of, and yet it's because of their ability to dream that I now have the life I have.
And I know that my parents and my whole family love that I have all these choices because all they ever do is support me. Nothing I ask of them is too great.
I also know that I can never feel guilty enough to make others abundant.
To the subconscious mind giving away money to strangers, friends and family will assuage your guilt. Guilt forces you to pay restitution for your wrongs, so if you feel guilty about your good fortune, the one way to rectify it is by giving away money to others
This is a good way to get rid of money and hide your “wrong”. Also spending money as fast as you can ensures that you remain in the same situation as everyone else and avoid criticism or judgement by them
The easiest way not to feel any guilt about money is to never make money by undercharging for your services or taking on jobs that you’re overqualified for
If you find yourself apologizing for your success, pretending to be like everyone else, you’re probably feeling guilty about having money. Notice when you’re giving away money, not from a place of gratitude but from a place of guilt; pause and sit with the emotion.
Use affirmations to let your subconscious mind know that it is safe and morally right for you to be success.
One affirmation I use is:“I am worthy of all the good in this world and allow myself to be super successful”
When we question the mind, we see the truth and as the old saying goes: the truth shall set you free.
Sit with your guilt and observe it.
Ask yourself: where does this guilt come from and wait for the answer.
The root cause of every emotion is a thought and once you release the thought, the emotion it causes will also be released.
How has this impacted your finances?
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