I often see posts that say that people who are late, don't respect your time and don't respect physical boundaries and I think we need to start talking more about the intersectionality of systemic oppression, time and money.
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Episode 77: The Link Between Mother Wounds and Self Sabotage
Often, as women, our roles start to shift as we expand, and we find ourselves mothering our mothers in very subtle ways. In our expansion, we tend to take on the role of a mother to our mothers. Sometimes, it’s not that we want it to happen, but we automatically find ourselves doing it, especially when we have the finances and the means.
On Sons & Daughters Who Take On The Father Role In The Family
We all know about the daughter who will try to replace her father through romantic relationships and even dating older men.
But we don't talk about the daughter or son who feels obligated to help their mother carry the load financially.
Often this will be the first born daughter or son - they will often step into the role of the father, be super responsible and become their mom's wing man.
3 Myths About Giving Financial Help (or Black Tax) that Block Us Financially
Often when we talk about black tax, we talk about the recipients of black tax being problematic.
This is a major myth, because a relationship isn't just made up of one person.
For today I want us to explore this myth and stop looking at the givers of Black tax as victims, and also explore their motives.
I say this as someone who has watched both their parents pay black tax.
And as someone who has felt deep resentment that their mother had to help her family and end up losing so much in the end.
Black Tax: When Giving Becomes A Financial Burden & Leads to Sibling Rivalry
Black tax wasn't always "tax", it was a way of looking after the tribe and has its roots in compassion, love and wisdom on how to get out of poverty.
It's a way of paying it forward and is not unique to African people, it's practised in Asia and other ethnic communities.
The idea is simple - families need to get ahead - so the eldest or the smartest child in the family, whoever shows the most potential, would be educated...