I need the industry to stop pushing this idea of working 16 hour days building businesses, because “if you truly wanted it, you would work even harder.”
I bought into this belief and my nervous system went bezerk because it didn't feel safe. My depression worsened and all I wanted was to take my life 80% of the time.
No matter what happens around me, I try to get 1 massage a week and try as much as possible to regulate my nervous system and schedule non-sexual physical pleasure into my daily schedule.
Every so often on social media the topic of girlfriend allowance comes up and I want to chip in on this.
I’ve had a girlfriend allowance. In fact I have at one point in my life held onto a man's bank cards and credit cards and had access to all his bankers in case I needed something, if he was out of town.
I really have been doing all the ish I do (including traveling and living all over the world) with just cash. I have no credit card or personal loans. I don't owe family and friends money.
We don't talk enough about how exhausting it is to be battling our own emotional states of overwhelm, anxiety, fear, grief, depression etc, and how that exhaustion stops us from having any energy left to execute ish.
What support looks like in business and how it leads to expansion: When I was editing and proofreading the "Next Level You Journal" I realized my schedule was too packed asn I wasn’t going to be able to do everything I had planned.
