One of the things I’ve had to stop myself from doing is mothering my mother as both of us get older.

I’ve had to sit with my guilt about how my life is evolving and this feeling that I need to pay my mother back for all the sacrifices she made so I live this life.

My mother never asked me to pay her back.

And part of me knows that this wouldn't be giving, it would be paying my mother back.

Sometimes, we take on financial responsibility no one asked us to take on.

We take it on ourselves and usually it's linked to our mothers and it's tied to the mother wound.

We can sometimes find ourselves feeling guilty the more successful we get and we don't know how to handle that guilt, so we give financially to our mothers.

We give financially, not because we want to, but because we feel guilty because we feel like we owe our mothers.