Just because people are your people, it doesn’t mean you are their person

This applies to everyone Including family.

People will often show us if we’re truly their person in their actions towards us and in the way they talk to us and treat us.

Not all of us are our people's person so we use money and over give in every way as a way to make them our people.

We know we don’t have their loyalty or their devotion.

They may love us but they don’t like us.

But we are loyal to them and we like them because they’re our people so we do the most (financially and otherwise) to make them feel the same way we do and fool ourselves into believing we are their person.

That if we just do XYZ and they see how awesome we are they’ll accept us as their person.

And then we get angry when they keep showing us we’re not their person.