When Having Money Causes Discomfort Or Makes Us Feel Uncomfortable

I used to have panic attacks at the mere thought of handling money or having money in my bank account. I couldn’t rest until I’d spent the money or gotten rid of it in some way.

Some people are visibly uncomfortable with having money, whilst others seem excited at the prospect of having money, so their discomfort looks like excitement - they spend money as fast as it comes in. They’ll even say things like - I love money, I love spending money, I love having money.

It isn’t excitement that makes them spend money so recklessly, it’s the discomfort over having money in their bank account or wallet.

Most people also confuse nervousness with excitement, because they have the same physiological response. I see this often with clients and students - they claim to be excited at the prospect of having or making more money, when really they are just nervousness.

How The Belief That We Need To Work Hard For Money Holds Us Back Financially


Growing up I was taught that if I want to make good money or a lot of money, I had to be willing to work super hard.

I bought into this belief and learned to work hard.

I spent my twenties mastering hard work, reading up on how to push through exhaustion to get to my second wind.

I truly believed that if I worked hard enough, people would eventually notice.

I believed this until I connected my lack of sleep to my anxiety and connected my anxiety to my panic attacks and my depression and connected my depression to my digestive issues.

That’s when I decided: no more!

My mental, emotional and physical health was too important.

I stopped buying into this concept of success and started asking myself key questions: how can I build a company and still prioritize self care and pleasure? How can I increase my income with ease?