money and family

How to Forgive (Without Compromising Your Boundaries)

How to Forgive (Without Compromising Your Boundaries)

I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness and boundaries.

A few weeks ago I did the meditation on memories about money and had a past life memory.

It’s a memory I’ve had many times before in my past life regression sessions, where I saw my mother kill me. She was a soldier in that life and I was the wife of a man who was plotting treason and when the soldiers came looking for the man they found me.

My sister was my son in that lifetime and I had hid him (my son) in the shed so he could be safe.

In the meditation I flashed to this memory and I saw how right before I died I made a vow to avenge myself and avenge that killing.

This was a light bulb moment for me because I finally understood why my inner child at the age 4 was obsessed with vengeance, especially when it came to my mom.

The first time I ever flashed to this memory, a few years ago, I kept going back and forth between that past life memory and this life time.

Why Families Have The Same Financial Patterns

Why Families Have The Same Financial Patterns

Understand that the relationship we have with money and the way we're currently experiencing money can be unwittingly passed onto our kids.

This is why it's not uncommon for a family to have a similar spirit of money or a similar money archetype.

You can find the current generation responding the same way to money as the previous generation did.

It can feel like no matter what we do, we find ourselves in the same situation as our parents.

Maybe your mom would spend all her money at month end, and you feel like you can't stop yourself from spending all your money on month end - no matter what you have to use that money....

3 Myths About Giving Financial Help (or Black Tax) that Block Us Financially

3 Myths About Giving Financial Help (or Black Tax) that Block Us Financially

Often when we talk about black tax, we talk about the recipients of black tax being problematic.

This is a major myth, because a relationship isn't just made up of one person. 

For today I want us to explore this myth and stop looking at the givers of Black tax as victims, and also explore their motives.

I say this as someone who has watched both their parents pay black tax. 

And as someone who has felt deep resentment that their mother had to help her family and end up losing so much in the end. 

Black Tax: When Giving Becomes A Financial Burden & Leads to Sibling Rivalry

Black Tax: When Giving Becomes A Financial Burden & Leads to Sibling Rivalry

Black tax wasn't always "tax", it was a way of looking after the tribe and has its roots in compassion, love and wisdom on how to get out of poverty.

It's a way of paying it forward and is not unique to African people, it's practised in Asia and other ethnic communities.

The idea is simple - families need to get ahead - so the eldest or the smartest child in the family, whoever shows the most potential, would be educated...

Why the First Chakra is Really a Money Chakra

Why the First Chakra is Really a Money Chakra

A few weeks ago I mentioned how Joburg had a different impact on my relationship with money.

As soon as I noticed this, I decided to just be still and spend the month of June in South Africa and not just leave for Thailand.

I decided to visit my mom in the village and open myself up to being triggered so I can clear all the remnants that are still hanging out in my energy sphere. 

I think this family work is important because it impacts our emotions and energy levels no matter where we are in the world.