Unpopular Opinion: Adulting is Awesome
A while back I was chatting with a friend and we were talking about how much fun adulting is.
I honestly didn't enjoy my childhood and teens because I was constantly dealing with abuse, but adulting has been and continues to be awesome so far:
💥 Being able to constantly work towards the life I want vs being subject to adult choices
💥 No longer always worrying about money and that all my friends would find out that even though I was at one of the top private schools in Joburg, we had no money to buy food
💥 Finally releasing the shame of not having money to buy food daily - adulting has been a journey of healing and breaking cycles for me
💥 Going on a journey where I learned that it's possible to spend money without my whole body shaking, feeling a sinking in the pit of my stomach or clenching my jaw
💥 Being able to work the way I want and get paid for doing just that
💥 Starting my day when I feel like it. I am writing this post in the morning from my bed
💥Not having to get up early to be at school, learning ish I don't care about and being around energies that disturbed me. I hated school soo much
💥 Being able to enjoy Sundays without the dread of school/students on Monday
💥 Being able to leave cities and countries when I want
💥 Being able to make my own decisions about things and not fight adults about them
💥 Having the power to choose to live in a peaceful environment where the biggest drama in my life is watching sunsets vs family drama that keeps me on edge 24/7
💥 Being able to prioritize healing and regulating my nervous system
💥 Being able to choose what and when I eat...I am still upset that adults would force me to finish my food and basically tried to teach me to ignore my body's messaging, thankfully I fought that
I know it's an unpopular opinion, but I honestly love adulthood.
My childhood and teens were hell for me. I spent almost everyday worried about being beaten, being shouted at and told that I am useless, being gaslit and told not to feel my emotions.
Not all of us had happy childhoods but I believe we can work towards better adulthoods.
Yay to adulting, growing up, being on a healing journey and choosing to break the abusive family patterns.
