A breakthrough happens when you learn how to get out of your own way and stop self-sabotaging your own success.
I learned this when I was just starting out as an entrepreneur and deciding if I should just have a writing company or if I should also become a writer.
I’d convinced myself that I couldn’t do both.
Everything started coming together and making sense when I learned to get out of my own way and let the process unfold naturally and with ease so I could begin to focus on making the vision a reality.
How To Get Out Of Your Own Way
1. Determine who or what you want to be
The first step is to determine who you want to be (forget the voice that tells you it’s impossible) and then see where you actually are and determine what actions you need to take to be that person.
Actions are influenced by underlying beliefs and most of us have limiting beliefs that are stopping us from being the leaders we’re meant to be.
My breakthrough came the day I realized that I didn’t want to be a writer because I didn’t believe that what I thought was important or original.
This thought demotivated me and discouraged me from writing.
It’s only when I started changing my thinking that I was able to sit down and write and change the way I saw myself.
3. Find your own truth
It’s so easy to believe the negative things we think about ourselves and never question it.
To disproof this belief just requires you to look at your whole life and see if what you believe about yourself or your life is true. If you can find just one thing to disprove this fact, then it can’t be objectively true and you should ask yourself how holding onto this negative thought improves your life.
For a thought to be true, it has to be every time in every situation. Suppose you believe you aren’t good with money.
You can easily prove this thought to be false if you can find moments in your life when you have managed money well.
4. What do you have to believe to be the person you want to be?
Faith is a powerful thing. Believing in a God or an idea can give us strength but the most powerful thing is to believe in ourselves.
What do you need to believe about yourself to be the person you want to be?
When I was decide to be a writer I had to change my thinking and believe that my thoughts were important and that what I had to say mattered to someone somewhere.
5. Reinforce your positive beliefs
For some of us our beliefs are so deeply embedded that it takes a while to get rid of them. You have to have a strategy to keep reinforcing positive beliefs about yourself and your situation to be able to break through.
I reinforce my positive beliefs about myself and my abilities by writing down all the good things that happen to me every day and celebrating major milestones. I find that this helps when I’mgoing through a major bout of self-doubt.
I leave you with a quote by Steve Carlton, “You’ve gotta find a way to get out of your own way, so you can progress in life.”
How do you stand in your own way?
What has helped you get out of your own way?
Let me know in the comments section.